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Reading the Eyes
They've existed for 540 million years and most of us have a pair,
but aside from giving us sight, what can we tell from looking at someone's eyes?
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Look, don't stare. Over-powering eye contact can make the recipient uncomfortable. |
Generally in Western societies and most other cultures, eye contact with
a person is expected to be regular but not overly persistent, as constant
eye contact is often considered to be an attempt at intimidation, causing
the person who's the object of a person's gaze to feel overly studied and
uncomfortable. Even between humans and non-humans, persistent eye contact
is sometimes unadvisable: the New Zealand Medical Journal reported that
one reason so many young children fall victim to attacks by pet dogs is
their over-poweringly regular eye contact with pets, which causes them to
feel threatened and defensive.
Overly persistent eye contact is also a sign of a person's over-awareness
of the messages they are emmiting. In the case of a person who is try to
deceive someone, they may distort their eye contact so that they're not
avoiding it - a widely recognised indicator of lying.
Avoiding eye contact
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Evasive eye contact: a sign of discomfort. |
Why do we keep from looking at a person? It may be because we feel ashamed to be looking at them if we're being dishonest of trying to deceive them. However, Scotland's University of Stirling found that, in a question-and-answer study among children, those who maintained eye contact were less likely to come up with the correct answer to a question than those who looked away to consider their response. Eye contact, as a socialising device, can take a surprising amount of effort to maintain when this energy could be spend on calculating, as opposed to perceptive, tasks.
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Humans are believed to be the only species on Earth to cry, though there is emerging evidence of it in elephants and gorillas. [1] |
In most cultures around the world, crying is considered to be
caused by an extreme experience of emotion; usually, it's associated with sadness
or grief, though often extreme experiences of happiness,
and through humor, can cause us to cry. Often, forced crying to gain sympathy
or deceive others is known as "crocodile tears" - an expression from
myths of crocodiles 'crying' when catching prey.
Aside from our instinctive need to blink, our emotions and feeling towards the person we're talking to can cause us to subconcious alter our blink rate. Blinking more than the average 6-10 times per minute (see right) can be a good indicator that a
person is attracted to the person they're talking to, and is for this reason
used as a sign of flirting.
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Men and women blink at roughly the same rate as each other - between 6 and 10 times per minute in a normal setting. Additionally, animals such as tortoises are known to blink at different times with each eye. |
In the West, we consider winking to be a cheeky form of flirting - something
we do with people that we know or are on good terms with. However, there are
cross-cultural variations on the issue of winking: some Asian cultures frown
up on the use of this form of facial expression. [2]
Eye Direction
What does the direction is someone looking in tell us about what they're thinking
or feeling? Well, probably just what they're looking at. The thing to look out
for is the direction someone's eyes are looking in when they're thinking. Looking
to their left indicates that they're reminiscing or trying
to remember something. On the other hand, looking to their right indicates
more creative thoughts, and this is often interpreted as a potential sign that
someone may be being deceitful in some situations, i.e. creating a version of
events. Note: if a person is left handed, the direction indicators may be reversed.
From the findings above, what's the best way to convey a positive you using
eye contact? If you want to show you're interested in what someone has to say,
make eye contact often, but remember that unblinking stares are disconcerting.
Researchers have found that when people are engaged in an interesting conversation,
their eyes remain focused on their partner's face about 80% of the time - but
not exclusively on the eyes. Instead, they focus on the eyes for two to three
minutes, then move down to the nose or lips, then back up to the eyes. Occasionally,
they look down to the table momentarily, then back up to the eyes. Avoid looking
up and to the right - it's a universal symbol of boredom and dismissal.
Also remember the following key points with regards to eye contact:
Demonstrate that you're interested and active in interacting with someone by maintaining regular intervals of eye contact, but remember that contant eye contact can be intimidating.
Pupil dilation can indicate someone is interested; it could, alternatively, be that the room has become brighter.
Wink sparingly, even in cultures you know accept such a gesture in jest.
Avoid "crocodile tears" if you want to be considered trustworthy by your peers.
Tags: eyes, reading eyes, body language, pupil, pupils, dilation, contraction, blinking, crying, movement, movements, stare, staring, avoidance, eye contact
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